The subject of forgiveness has been heavy on my mind today and I thought, why not put something in writing as part of the ”CHITCHAT”? WHY NOT?
Forgiveness is definitely one of the hardest things to do, be it ”cheating, betrayal, abuse, etc”. And whilst it may take a sweet and kind gesture and an apology for some, it can take a lifetime others.
OK so here is little story. I grow up in a less privileged back in Zambia (one of the countries in the African continent). So here is a little girl who not only had a lazy eye but a squint to and to top it off, a father who was away majority of her life and a mother in a foreign land (she is the best, the reason why I am no longer in Zambia but now Britain)
I was bullied for a condition I had no control over. I was bullied for looking like a less privileged kid in school yet I claimed that my mother lived in the United Kingdom. I was also bullied and mocked by my relations (both near and distant). It made me so mad and rebellious, which earned me the title ‘Black Sheep of the House’ but bear in mind I was the smartest kid in the house and always ranked among the top three in my primary years.
Growing up, I harboured a lot of hate and was unwilling to forgive those who those who hate me but guess what? When the time for confrontation came, ‘some of who bullied me totally forgot they ever did it, others blamed it on being young, naive and not knowing better whilst others just didn’t it would affect me for this long and were apologetic. And so in those moments it hit me and I realised that I had become my own prisoner, a prisoner to UNFORGIVENESS (lol if that word exists).
Therefore, forgiveness is very paramount, not for the other individual who hurt you but rather you. DO not become a prisoner of ”unforgiveness”, teach your heart to forgive but your mind to never forget.
The people wo hurt you tend to move on quicker and they easily forget.
Thank you for reading. Hope it touches someone out there.